FIRST-TIME SEX TOY TIPS FOR COUPLES

Valentine's Day is just around the corner, and if you have ANY inclination to introduce a sex toy into the bedroom, NOW IS THE PERFECT OPPORTUNITY.

Sure, you can gift the traditional roses or romantic dinner, but why let the romance stop when you get home? Foreplay actually starts way before you step foot in the bedroom - beginning with mental and emotional stimulation. 

Deciding to use a sex toy with your significant other should have their best interests in mind (not just yours). Example: if you're gonna buy a cock ring, you better not show up empty handed - without something that will help your partner get off, too.

Surprising your partner with a sex toy can lead to a lot of awkwardness if you haven't had open communication about mutual interests. It's best to approach the subject lightly before whipping out a vibrator during sex, for the sake of consensualism. Our favorite approach: "We have amazing sex...would you be open to exploring with something that will enhance your stimulation? I want to take our pleasure to the next level."  

We understand how sensitive this subject can be; no one wants to feel like they are inadequate in bed, and you don't want your partner to feel that way either. But the *actual* point is: both partners deserve to feel as GOOD as possible during foreplay and sex. That is the ultimate goal. Treat sex like a special occasion, not a rushed afterthought. Foreplay is an avenue towards more genuine intimacy; getting to know what really turns your partner on; the opportunity to communicate on a different level. 

If you know your partner is on board, you can either shop together online (an awesome post-Valentine's Day dinner activity (and very discreet) - or you can take initiative and shop for a sexy surprise on your own. Your North Star is knowing how and where your partner likes to be touched. From there...

IF BOTH PARTNERS ARE ON BOARD, ARE YOU INTERESTED IN: 

• Extra lubrication 
• Longer, harder erections 
• External stimulation formula 
• Endurance/stamina formula 
• Clitoral or internal/g-spot stimulation (or both) 
• Nipple stimulation
• Vibration: via a cock ring, bullet vibe, or otherwise 
• Insertable toys 
• Phallic or non-phallic shaped
• Anal toys 
• Being tied up 

TIPS FOR FIRST-TIME SEX TOY SHOPPERS: 

• Start small. The most non-intimidating type of vibrating sex toy is hands-down, a bullet vibrator. It's compact, it makes very little noise, requires no penetration, is cost-efficient, and it gets straight to the point (clitoris). Use it during oral sex, off and on - will drive anyone crazy in the best way. Some bodies are more sensitive than others, so be sure to check in and ensure that your partner is receiving the right amount of stimulation. 
• LUBE IS YOUR FRIEND. And it is one of the most common bedroom staples that are found in the nightstands of both single and coupled individuals. Lube isn't just for vaginal dryness; it helps with discomfort, enhances pleasurable sensations for both partners, and has the potential to help a woman achieve orgasm quicker. Our bodies hold a lot of stress; even if we are in the mood to have sex, we might not physically respond right away. This is where a small bottle of trusty water-based lube comes into play. Why water-based? It's compatible with any type of toy, doesn't stain, and is the closest thing to natural lubrication produced by the body. (Silicone formulas are thicker -- ideal for anal sex, and one primary benefit is that they require less frequent application.)
• Pleasure products aren't one-size-fits-all. If the first thing you try doesn't hit the spot for one or both of you, try again! A stimulation cream is probably the easiest way to amplify body sensations without using a foreign object. For example, Climax is kissable, bodysafe, and a hint of cinnamon relaxes the vulva/clitoris prior to sex. Plus, a pack of two small vials don't require you to invest in a larger bottle that may go to waste. Since women take longer to heat up (and orgasm), applying a couple drops about 30 minutes prior to sex will give her a head start. 

Our top picks for couple's sex toys are.... 

BEGINNER BUNDLE:
SMOOTH lube + 
HEAT soy massage candles + 
CLEAN pH-balanced wipes 

EXTERNAL STIMULATION BUNDLE:
​STROKE pleasure sleeve
CLIMAX clitoral enhancer
PULSE vibrating ring 

INTERMEDIATE BUNDLE:
CLIMAX clitoral enhancer +
VIBE bullet 2-pack +
PULSE vibrating ring 

ADVENTUROUS BUNDLE: 
BIND satin restraint kit + 
VIBE  bullet vibe + 
EASE anal relaxation formula 


Because we are advocates for sexual exploration and next-level pleasure, we are offering 15% all purchases until February 15th with code NEXTLEVELSEX at checkout. Additional questions? Email us at social@bedroomproducts.com!

Happy fucking/Valentine's Day!